Once upon a 500sq foot apartment I shared with my ex-boyfriend.

I loved this teeny tiny highly functional apartment that happened to be the first spaced I shared with a boyfriend. I was always impressed with our ability to collectively build and live in such a tiny space without it ever really feeling too small. Located in the West Highlands neighborhood in Denver, CO, circa 2013.Continue reading “Once upon a 500sq foot apartment I shared with my ex-boyfriend.”

Not for lack of trying.

I have been trying so hard. Trying to accept my circumstances. Trying to be grateful. Trying to stay positive. Trying to imagine a new life that excites me. Trying to let go of the life that was ripped away from me. Trying to do the right thing. Trying to stay informed. Trying to amplify theContinue reading “Not for lack of trying.”

The straightforward guide to perfect potatoes.

I’m generally a lover of potatoes, but who isn’t? Baked, mashed, fried, roasted. All delicious, but many methods require a lot of oil or added fats to make them delicious. After a lot of tweaking and perfecting, I’ve figured out a method that always results in potatoes that are hot and fluffy in the middle,Continue reading “The straightforward guide to perfect potatoes.”

A different kind of new year’s resolution.

I’ve always cringed during “goal setting” exercises at work, and I’ve dreaded the classic interview question “what’s your 5 year plan?” Throughout my 20s, goal setting has made me incredibly anxious, because after college, I didn’t know what my goals were. But it wasn’t always that way.  When I was around 10 years old IContinue reading “A different kind of new year’s resolution.”

The second time you leave.

I’m not talking about leaving for a vacation. Or leaving for college. Not leaving for a work trip, or even an extended deployment. Not maternity leave either. All of those things have one thing in common: they eventually come to an end. There is a start and a finish.  The kind of leaving I’m talkingContinue reading “The second time you leave.”

Endings & Beginnings

All of my past relationships share one common moment. Not butterflies before the first kiss, or when your stomach drops the first time someone tells you they love you. I’m talking about the moment when I’ve realized that it’s over. Maybe not today, maybe not this week, maybe not even this year. But it’s over,Continue reading “Endings & Beginnings”

2020: The Year of the Vibrator.

I suppose you could say I’ve always been… toy curious. You see, I’ve always had a difficult reaching orgasm whether it’s with a finger, a tongue, vaginally or otherwise. I just can’t get off. It’s something I live with and I choose to focus on the many other amazing aspects of intercourse, without putting theContinue reading “2020: The Year of the Vibrator.”

At 28, I gave myself freedom.

Freedom to quit a job I hated. Freedom to pursue uncertainty that scared and excited me. Freedom from worrying about where and when I’ll meet The One. Freedom to be more selfish with my time and my energy. Freedom to do what I want, rather than what I should. Freedom to be kinder to myself,Continue reading “At 28, I gave myself freedom.”